There are many misconceptions and assumptions about disability in society. Some people believe that disabled people are unable to be parents and be in relationships let alone have a partner who is able bodied.
In this blog post I wanted to write about the misconceptions and assumptions disabled women can face. Disabled women may do things differently but this should not prevent us from embracing all aspects of womanhood if we want to.
Below are 5 misconceptions about disabled women that stand out to me, from my own experience and what I’ve heard and seen.
I often get surprising comments and looks when people see that I’m wearing makeup. I have gotten comments in the past which are along the lines of “ I didn’t know disabled women wear makeup”. Just because I’m disabled that doesn’t make me not want to dress up and experiment with looks. A lot of disabled women also love fashion. However for many women the clothing out in mainstream fashion houses are not accessible for us and we may need to shop else wear or make our own clothes. But this doesn’t mean we’re not into fashion in fact a lot of us love it but want the industry to be more diverse which I believe is starting to happen slowly. A big dream of mine is to model for high street clothing brands. Our differences need to be celebrated not hidden . Life would be boring if we were all the same! Disabled women should be able to feel sexy and on trend just like everyone else.
It is sometimes assumed that disabled women can’t have relationships. Dating is the chance to get to know another person, see what you have in common, maybe find love. Being disabled doesn’t stop a person from experiencing this. Sometimes disabled women who have partners others often assumed that their partner is also disabled or the women’s carer.
Disabled people are often seen as needing to dependent on others. Therefore not able to care or be in a motherly role. Their is no rule book on how a family should look. Families come in all different shapes and sizes which is filled with love.
Disabled women still need to be part of the conversation around the topic of women’s rights just as much as able bodied women. We still face the same challenges, stigmas and inequalities that mainstream women face. This is often harder to see as the disability is seen first. All women need to come together regardless of the label’s society gives us.
Their are certain disabilities that are perceived as ones women can’t have. This means these disabilities get undiagnosed, leaving some women unsupported. An example of a disability like this is Autism . Autism is more diagnosed in men than in women. Many women find it hard to get their autism recognised. The National Autistic Society says a possible reason for this is because women “ are often better at masking or camouflaging their difficulties”. However it did say that diagnosing the disability is getting better!
Down Syndrome is another disability which is more common in men than women, Source- disability scoop.
Whilst in isolation I have had more time to watch my favourite YouTubers as well as finding new YouTubers to watch. From animals to fashion and channels all about motivation to name a few. I thought I would share with you some of my favourite YouTubers I am watching right now.
At the moment I am unable to have my horse riding lessons at my local Riding for the Disabled stables. I am finding it hard but to help me with not missing out on my weekly horse fix. I have been enjoying watching This Esme. This Esme makes YouTube videos all about her horses and donkeys. From equine care to hauls to challenges. If you are an equine or animal love I would definitely recommend watching her videos.
I also enjoy watching paralympic athlete Natasha Baker’s YouTube Channel. I have watched all her videos many times!
My last Animal YouTuber I enjoy watching is Emzotic. Emma does a range of videos from pet care to D.I.Ys . If you are a fan of unusual animals or want to learn how to care for a variety of animals checkout her channel.
One of my favourite beauty YouTubers is sophdoeslife. She is very well known in the beauty YouTube community . All her videos are about everything beauty and fashion related. From testing products, makeup hacks and decluttering makeup and clothes.
Jordan Bone is a YouTuber who I have watched now for many years now. Through videos she shares her story, to makeup videos and now onto more motivational content too! I have watched many of her videos over and over again! She is helping me a lot at the moment with still trying to stay positive despite life’s obstacles.
Grace Victory a very well known YouTube is another YouTuber I love and have watched for a long time over the years . One of the big reasons why I loved watching her videos for so long was because she is comfortable talking about those taboo subjects! I now really enjoy watching her vlogs too.
I enjoy watching sisters Grace and Amelia aka The Mandeville Sisters on YouTube they talk about everything from disability to mental health to everyday life .
I have recently just started watching Hannah’s YouTube Channel. I really enjoy watching her videos. She makes videos all about lifestyle, arts and culture to work and career.
I am enjoying watching Anomalous Chloe YouTube videos. Chloe is a mental health nurse and I find her videos really interesting as I get to see what’s it like from a mental health nurses perspective as I have been in a mental health hospital as a patient. She makes videos all about mental health, nurse life, vlogs and hauls to name a few.
Last on my list is a new YouTuber I have been watching recently called Sadie Aldi’s. Sadie creates videos all about lifestyle,wellbeing , fashion and organisation.
I hope this gave you some new YouTubers to checkout. I would love to know what YouTubers you like to watch! I’m always on the lookout to add new YouTubers to my watch list!
So you might have noticed that I haven’t been blogging as much as I used to or as much as I would like to. This is just a short post telling you what I’m up to and where I have been.
This September I started back at college but instead of doing an adult learning course like I did last year. I am now a full time student doing Performing Arts Level 2. I am loving it! We recently did our first production called First Draft were we performed different short plays, dances and songs. We are now rehearsing for our Immersive Theatre Christmas Production Bah Humbug! I have been on quite a journey to be accepted onto a course I really wanted and love to do and now I’m finally there and doing what I love!
I am also currently doing workshops with Resource Productions to write, create, shoot and edit our own shot films. The project I am working on with fellow cast and crew members will be shown at Pinewood Studios.
I am still doing hair and makeup modelling but would love to try new things to develop my portfolio. In the future I would love to be an actor and a model with an agent.
I am still going to one of my most favourite places in the world the stables. I have now moved class were I am learning all about the detail. I am so excited to see what the future holds!
I am thinking about writing more content on my blog for example reviews as well as beauty and fashion. I am also thinking about having more themes for my Instagram story for example Mental Health Monday’s.
I can’t wait to see what the future holds and have you all come on this journey with me. I’ve got some exciting things happening soon and can’t wait to share it all with you my Defeating Disability Family
Yesterday I went back to the Iver Makeup Academy to do some more makeup modelling for some of their students. During the day the students had to do two different makeup looks on two different models.
The workshop for the day was creating looks using individual lashes one glam look and a look with a good base to the skin.
In the morning for the first look I worked with a MUA student called Mary. She created this pink and red toned makeup look on me. She used a mixture of different pink, red and purple based eyeshadows on my eyes and then add a very light pinky red toned lipstick to my lips. To begin with the lips were too red so she stripped the colour back by taking some of the lipstick colour off so it wasn’t over powering and distracting from my eye makeup. Then she worked on blending my eyeshadow to create a more smokey eye. She gave me a more defined eye by using a black eyeliner and adding some individual lashes. Then applying mascara to my lashes.
In the afternoon I worked with a student called Amy. She created a different look by focusing on getting a good look and coverage to my skin but also adding some glam to the look as well.When doing my foundation Amy used a variety of different shades using MAC products. To help make my foundation look less “cakey” she used different beauty blenders to work the product into my skin as well as using just some slightly damp beauty blenders too. For my eyes she used green and brown tones of eyeshadow and also added a sparkly green eye shadow into the eye as well. She worked different mascaras on top of all my lashes to make them stand out. For the lips she used a pale skin pink toned lipliner and a natural coloured lip stick.
I really enjoyed my day and can’t wait to go back and model agin very soon!